It’s been a while since I came from Saudi Arabia. It’s an awesome experience to meet and hug again your loved ones after 26 months.
There’s just a problem creeping, though. I already filed an exit and promised the company and myself to never work again in the same country.
I’m applying again for another work abroad. All of my job applications are for Middle East countries except Saudi Arabia. Funny, I still got calls to work in the country I’m avoiding. Except, one I got last week from someone else’s referral — a company from Qatar.
I’m not against people working in Saudi Arabia. As an engineer, I’m starting to believe this country is the one where I could find the most opportunity. I’m grateful I got a lot of learning experiences in this rich country. The cultures and traditions taught me a lot of lessons.
The Hobbyist Blogger Becoming A Beggar
I couldn’t get over to the story of Morrow. You could also check the story of Helen Keller. I’ve done a lot of hard decisions in life. But, compared to them, I would look like a crying kindergarten who accidentally dropped his candy.
How could I whine and complain always? There’s always something we can do, right?
I’m happy I already posted blog posts and typed thousands of words. Things unthinkable for me before.
I could congratulate myself. Or, I would say, I should. Relying on my emotions, it’s easy to tell myself I’m on a lonely journey.
Yes, I’ve done enough. But, I have to admit, typing on my laptop gave some sense of guilt.
Last Sunday evening, my mother took the first day of her part-time job. She told me her job is packing soaps in boxes. She did it to help amends the family financial needs.
I got few amounts of money left. In one or two months without a job, then I’m as rich as a beggar.
Here I am, jobless for months and still have the gall to write. For what? For a hobby of blogging?
Again, I’m not against anyone. If you’re also blogging as a hobby, go for it. Many times on this blog, I already mentioned to do your thing and you don’t need permission.
“And the most important possible thing you can do is do a lot of work — do a huge volume of work. Put yourself on a deadline so that every week, or every month, you know you’re going to finish one story. Because it’s only by actually going through a volume of work that you are actually going to catch up and close that gap. And the work you’re making will be as good as your ambitions.” ~Ira Glass
Many creative people quit as their taste is not yet satisfied. Impatience creeps in. Disillusioned to perfectionism, they quit.
How could we blame them? Difficult decisions are both physical and emotional. Our spirits crushed with seemingly impossible circumstances. Passion fades away in the face of the comfortable status quo.
I don’t know in how many different ways did I mentioned this on my blog — I want to create value for my readers. But, up to now, it seems the value I’m giving is only for myself.
I improved my writing skill. I get familiarized with grammar. I gained more self-confidence as a writer. But, for the reader, what did I give?
Now, I’m thinking if someone sent me an email or private message in Facebook Messenger, then I’ll get thrilled. But, only if it changes the life of someone. If someone would give compliments on how good my writing was, then I need to think of something else to do.
That was good by the way, but it’s time to create something more valuable not just for me.
It is also the time to create something to help me and my family live a decent life.
Avoid Disappointment in Writing
What is the best way to avoid disappointment in writing?
Write for yourself. Maybe, you felt alone in writing, in reality, you are not. Me? I’m writing for myself. I’m not disappointed and still continue on writing.
But, you should still remember to ask yourself, why? The deeper the why the better you can find a way.
“People lose their way when they lose their why.” ~Michael Hyatt
We should not neglect the seasons of our life. Are you a mother? Then don’t neglect your children.
Are you financially broke? Then don’t buy things out of your whims.
Are you jobless? Then find one.
Did your business shreds into pieces? Then stand-up and build another one.
All these things are obvious. This is why I got a mediocre blog. According to Jon Morrow, common sense advice is boring.
Learn To Listen From Virtual Mentors
We couldn’t reinvent the wheel. Could we? For the ridiculous reason, it was invented thousands of years before. There are millions of websites about anything you can imagine. The best path to despair is learning from scratch. Someone who already has what you need. Or at least what you desire to have.
I tell you, if you need motivation, go to Brendon Burchard.
If you need practical Catholic (even non-Catholic) spiritual directions, go to Bro.Bo Sanchez.
If you are a Filipino looking for an online work, go to Jomar Hilario.
If you need to learn a lot or reignite your passion in writing, you can check Jeff Goins’ blog.
For writing who give more emphasis on blogging, you can ask advice from Jon Morrow’s site SmartBlogger.
For publishing, creating an online platform (e.g. blog) and productivity, Michael Hyatt is the guy.
Most of them I learned from listening to podcasts.
Last week, I joined Michael Hyatt’s webinar about “10 Strategies To CRUSH The 4 Common Obstacles That Keep You From Creating Content Fast.” One of the things I learned is to set a minimum goal and blogging. I already did that before. I publish a blog post every week. But, affirmation from a thought leader is important for me.
Then one of the lessons I learned from a Jon Morrow’s blog post entitled “20 Ways to Be Just Another Mediocre Blogger Nobody Gives a Crap About” is to set at least 2000 words as a minimum.
So from now on, I’ll take blogging more seriously one step forward. Starting from this blog post, making a 2000-words weekly blog post.
It might sound ludicrous as I should find practical means of income first. But, this is my commitment now. I’ll risk sounding crazy as an anticipation of future regrets.
I might still sound egotistic as mostly I’m talking about myself. But, this is just a means to an end.
If you’re reading this blog post. I appreciate it from the bottom of my heart. Thank you for your patience with me.
Also yesterday, I sent a private message in one of the known copywriters in the Philippines, Carl Dexter Arceo. He is the go-to guy when it comes to finding an effective copywriter.
I asked him questions about the right career path. He suggests I first pursue article writing. So, I will do what he suggests.
I got another reason to blog more either there’s a reader or not. I’m still in the planting season and I don’t care if it takes long before I get the harvests.
I’ll just enjoy the journey of writing.
The Default Mode
What is default mode? It is the most likely thing average people do. When you are in the checkout line of the grocery, what are you thinking? What kind of things are you paying attention to?
Below is a video interpretation of Foster Wallace’s commencement speech. Watching this will give you a great understanding of what default mode really means.
In short, the default mode is the easy path. Complaining and blaming is so easy. It doesn’t take a special person to get mad in a routine and boring situation. But, it takes a real deal of effort to pay attention to what matter most at the moment. To make good use of our education that we are proud of.
The default mode is also the path of studying hard and get a high-paying job. Same as doing what is expected from us instead of the desires of our heart. As smartphones have factory default settings, so as our lives.
Are you in default mode?
My Realization on Giving Value to Others
“And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.'” ~Matthew 22:39, NIV
Yesterday, most people, especially romantic couples celebrated Valentine’s Day. A great day to celebrate some of the couples’ romantic relationships.
For some, they called the day, SAD. Short for Single Awareness Day. By the way, I’m fully aware. Every day.
I never had any romantic relationship. If you’re looking for a late bloomer, you’re reading his writing now.
For someone who has a potential to gain a Guinness’ world record as the shyest (not sure if this word exists) person in the history of mankind, this is not a surprise. I’m always exaggerating with regards to my social awkwardness. I just do it for rhetorical effect. Or at least to give you an idea of how scared I was to talk to people.
I loved remembering the glorious past life of mine. It makes me feel grateful every time. I’m still afraid and always will. I acknowledge fear, but no need to overrate it.
I’m not bitter. I’m happy knowing lots of my friends enjoying the day. Almost a whole day, I’m just inside our house. I saw women’s Facebook posts of pictures of flowers given from a special guy.
I accept I’m weird. I just need to use this weirdness of mine in a good way.
“Never wish life were easier, wish that you were better.” ~Jim Rohn
It is my fault why I never had any romantic relationship. I’m not that old. But, some of the people of my age, I know who have already three or four children. Some are happily married and veteran in family matters.
It feels good though I could take advantage of my situation. 🙂
I’m at peace. I’m happy with what I have and whom I with — my family. But, I’m not content. Seems to contradict, but I tell you it’s not.
The great realization is: I can’t give what I don’t have. Unless I could love myself enough, I could not love someone else enough.
Same with writing. The reason this is hobby blog where I’m just talking to myself is I haven’t taken enough value.
At least, I’m thinking of getting the value that I can give to people I want to serve in the future.
Every day is a chance to love. Valentine’s Day or not, we must take awareness that life is beautiful and full of love. Take the imperfect love of broken people like you and me.
A relationship is a place of giving and not taking. But, to give, we must have something to offer.
As of now, this writing is only I can offer for you. If you want to suggest something, please leave a comment.
An Ego-Booster or Stubbornness for the Sake of Love
The internet has all the answers. Another obvious thing to consider. The problem now is to whom to trust.
Then why there’s still a lot of people taking the time to put their thought in a blog?
If they really want to help, then why they just refer them to people who could really help?
By the way, these are the questions for myself. Instead of talking to myself and telling my stories with the same situations in a different way, I’ll just refer what helps me. And hopefully, it would help you too.
I suggest you check all the names I mentioned above. Some of them you might know already. These are names I followed for at least five years (except for John Morrow, whom I just discovered last month).
If you are a Filipino who want to know an (Overseas Filipino Worker) OFW who got the courage to come back and work in the Philippines for good, watch Jomar Hilario’s interview for Sheryl Tapon. She is also pursuing online work. She is from Singapore who has not yet any work but determined enough.
Talking about courage and determination? She is the man. Or I mean the woman.
I apologized if I make this blog as a means to “boost my ego.” Somehow I paraphrase it as to “boost my confidence.”
But, I will continue to blog no matter what. At least in my life, I could tell myself to get consistent once and for all.
I want to become more so I can give more. I want to love myself so I can love more. If I will risk an image of an idiot and stubborn, so be it. For the sake of love, we should risk it.
I’m not talking about the romantic love most people celebrated yesterday. But, the kind of love where I simply want the better life for someone.
I prayed anyone reading this blog more blessing and receive more of what he or she is looking for. And as a result, have more capacity to give more.
Forgive me of my egotistic approach in blogging. I’m a human still confuse, but still struggling to give. Learning to love the way God does — pure and unconditional.
Sorry for my lack of practical stories. The most practical thing I can suggest is to follow my mentors.
I’m afraid of continuing. I got a lot of practical reasons to consider first. But, I will always have the “practical” reasons. The question is, when will all these reasons disappear?
This is the solution for me now. I tell you, continue on pursuing what you’re supposed to do. You might get the label as egotistic, but it is only you who knows better.
Your intention matter. Your deepest why matter. If you have enough reason to continue, then there’s no excuse to stop. Maybe, stop for a while to rethink and reconsider your values and priorities. But, don’t stop entirely.
Yes, this is why it is possible to not have contentment and yet happy. This is what love is all about. Got the idea from Bro.Bo Sanchez.
Life is good. All ours for our taking. We just need to do something.
Learn from someone already have you wanted. Apply their lessons. Fail and improve. Then you will succeed. Believe in yourself and you’ve already done half of the job with success.
Praying for you, my beloved reader. 🙂